often turn heads. And this one is no different.
Paparazzi snapped shots (obtained by ) of Aoki Lee Simmons, 21 – daughter of – kissing restauranteur Vittorio Assaf, 65. Their age gap of 40+ years has naturally drawn attention on social media. Some commenters on her recent Instagram posts chastised her for the apparent romance.
Aoki, however, seemed mellow in a recent Instagram Live.
“Last day in St. Barts. I’m so sad but I’m very happy,” she said. “When I return home, everyone who knows me will be getting a happier, more chilled out version of me.”
She warned her father the photos would be popping up, according to . “I’m not gonna kick and scream about her choices,” he told the outlet. “All I can do is offer my advice and unconditional love.”
The surrounding Aoki and Assaf’s entanglement is emblematic of a larger trend in recent years of reexamining celebrity relationships with wide age gaps: and have both used songs to call out their significantly older exes for dating them when they were in their late teens and early 20s. Fans in turn have used situations like Lovato’s and Swift’s to call out gender and power imbalances in relationships.
“We’ve reached an inflection point,” Andrea McDonnell, associate professor of communication at Providence College previously told USA TODAY, citing the #MeToo movement, and the overturning of .
Taylor Swift, Demi Lovato and the history of younger female celebrities dating older men
Hollywood has a storied history of famous couples with notable age gaps: stars such as (25-year gap) or and Joe Dimaggio (12-year gap). Even more recently, (who met when Jenner was 14 and Tyga was 21) and (21-year gap) raised eyebrows, as have several of ‘s relationships.
Relationship age gaps are prevalent no matter the couple’s genders, such as the now-defunct and still-going-strong couples and , though it’s more commonly called out in cases with older men and younger women.
Some have called out their former partners after feeling taken advantage of. Take which was adopted by myriad . “Finally 29 / Funny, just like you were at the time / Thought it was a teenage dream, just a fantasy / But was it yours or was it mine? 17, 29,” rumored to be about ex .
When , 32, re-released her last fall, she updated her allegedly about actor (who is nine years her senior) to include callouts to their age difference.
What can we learn from these relationships?
As long as both parties are over 18, these are legal – so what’s the issue? Developmental and relationship experts cite power imbalances – which relationships with older men and younger women can be susceptible to – as a sign that a relationship may not be appropriate.
“When it comes to dating, date within an age range where you feel confident and comfortable,” Rori Sassoon, a relationship expert and matchmaker previously told USA TODAY, urging singles to find a partner with similar “levels of life experience and intentions of the relationship.”
Meghan Gillen, professor of psychology at Penn State Abington who studies developmental psychology and body image, told USA TODAY that individuals in similar experiences should evaluate the situation for themselves: “Does it feel appropriate? Does it feel comfortable? Do you feel like you can relate to the person … or do you feel like the person has power over you?”
Famous or not, can gain status from a relationship with an age gap. But younger partners in particular also need to be wary of the gender, social and power dynamics at play.
“Significant age gap relationships require more work than the average relationship, from the public’s perception alone,” Sassoon says. “If you’re only in it to feed your ego, beware.”
Contributing: Hannah Yasharoff
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