Regardless of whether you’re a seasoned professional or a self-taught friend, doing someone’s wedding-day makeup can be challenging. Not only are you required to create a custom look for the celebration, but you’re also tasked with the job of ensuring your client looks great during the ceremony and reception while photos are being snapped. Unfortunately, one recent Reddit user experienced a different kind of beauty-related stress after being informed that she would be doing her mother-in-law’s glam and the looks of the entire bridal party. The worst part? She was told that she had to do it for free.
Key Takeaways
- A woman’s mother-in-law asked her to do her wedding-day makeup, with the expectation that she would agree.
- The woman never said yes to the request, due to the fact that she’s currently expecting her first child in a high-risk pregnancy.
- She later discovered that her mother-in-law offered her makeup services to her entire bridal party—for free—and is asking if she’s the a—— for not wanting to help out.
In a post on the site’s “Am I the A—— thread,” the original poster wrote that her mother-in-law, “Edith,” who’s getting married in less than a week, had mentioned to her a few months prior that she wanted the Redditor to do her wedding-day makeup. Though the Reddit user noted that she didn’t have a problem with Edith asking, she never actually agreed to the assignment. Her lack of a response didn’t seem to deter her mother-in-law’s vision, however, who took her silence as compliance with the request.
“I never once said ‘yes, I will do it.’ Let’s just say that she’s the type of person to just assume or expect someone will do something without even ever asking them, she’s done this on more than one occasion,” the poster wrote. “I HATE being volunteered or ‘volunTOLD’ to do something.” The Reddit user ultimately agreed to do Edith’s makeup, but things took a turn when she learned that the expectation of her services had dramatically changed. “Now all of a sudden, she’s telling her entire bridal party that I OFFERED to do EVERYONE’S makeup, for FREE, for the wedding…” the original poster wrote.
But there’s another layer to the story: In her post, the writer said she’s currently expecting her first child in a high-risk pregnancy. “With my pregnancy being high risk, I do not want to stand there for hours on end doing people’s makeup, as much as I do enjoy doing makeup, it’s the principle of never being asked, just expected,” she wrote. “Like I understand helping family out, but I think my time is worth something at least. Sometimes to do one person, it can take me over an hour, multiplying that by 7 or 8.. NO THANK YOU. I’ll be there all day doing makeup 😔”
The poster also admitted that since she’s “not the type that does well with confrontation,” she likely won’t mention her frustrations to her soon-to-be-married mother-in-law. However, if she does decide to air her concerns, she seems to have a working concept of what she might say. “I wouldn’t even know what to say other than, ‘I never agreed to do everyone’s makeup, and you never even asked me,” she wrote. “You just assumed I would do it, and it bothers me that you’re telling everyone I offered to do their makeup when that’s not the case. I don’t want to look like the a** when I tell them I never agreed to do everyone’s and I most likely won’t have time to finish all of the makeup before the wedding.’” Ultimately, she wrote that she’s “just not very happy about it.”